“There is no safe investment. To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket–safe, dark, motionless, airless–it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. The alternative to tragedy, or at least to the risk of tragedy is damnation. The only place outside Heaven where you can be perfectly safe from all the dangers and perturbations of love is Hell.”
-C.S. Lewis from his book “The Four Loves” p.169
Loving Without Being Loved in Return
So it hurts to love–especially when it’s not returned. It also hurts when you want the best for other people but you can’t make the choice for them so you see them suffer.
I’m not only referring to romantic love here. Remember, love is a universal need. This may apply to love of a parent to a child who has gone astray, love of a child for an abusive parent, our love for a friend, boss or a co-worker.
Someone once observed, to be appreciated and loved is our greatest need–more than money, fame or fortune.
It Must Be Difficult To Be God
I just realized God suffers a lot of rejection everyday. Imagine, everytime a Christian shares the Gospel to people and they refuse to accept Jesus as Lord and Savior of their lives. From a human’s perspective, it must be so hard to be where God is.
Imagine, God forgives us: our past, present and future sins–yet we sometimes hurt him by rushing into sin too quickly, we fall into it without fully realizing its effect to those around us.
I read somewhere that sin is like a cancer cell. Though you don’t see it, it spreads all over you until when it’s fully blown then there’s no way escaping the consequence and everyone around you will see its effect. Far be it from us that we take God’s grace, goodness and love in vain.
So when it hurts so bad loving without any return, just let go and let God. Let’s bring our wounds to God and let Him heal them. Let Him who loves us more than we’ll ever know love us back. His love is greater than all the loves in the world combined. (Sigh!)