June 7, 2005 – My notes from D12 (Discipleship of 12) with Pastor Michael Paderes at Ah Sin Asian Restaurant, Robinsons Galleria, Ortigas Center, Pasig City. He took some excerpts from John Maxwell’s book “Be A People Person” combined with his own thoughts and shared it with our group of leaders.
We all have certain measure of charisma and we can develop it.
Charisma = a personal magic of leadership arousing loyalty and popularity.
Some examples of charismatic leaders are: Ronald Reagan, Ninoy Aquino, Rice Broocks, Rico Ricafort, Dolphy.
Concern – having a heart and giving importance to others
Help – helping others
Action – controversial but never boring, creativity + confidence
Results – Others-centered
Influence – Leadership is influence.
Sensitivity – to feel and respond to others or situations
Motivation – to give hope
Affirmation – We tend to become what the most important person think of us.
We need to learn how to be more concerned about making others feel good about themselves than you are in making them feel good about you.
Circumstances = What happens to you
Character = What happens in you
Charisma = What happens through you
Develop your strengths. Ignore your weaknesses.
Think, believe and express the best in yourself and others.
We need to feel good about ourselves and then we can make others feel good about themselves.
Obstructions to Charisma in a Leader
1.) Pride – feeling of superiority
2.) Insecurity – instability, lack of confidence
3.) Moodiness – This is detrimental to relationships when left un-check and not corrected.
4.) Perfectionism – It stifles creativity and freedom. A perfectionist finds it difficult to affirm himself.
5.) Over-sensitivity – Being unaware of other’s needs because he thinks mostly of himself: his needs and feelings, gets easily offended
6.) Negativism – a tendency to resist external commands, suggestions, or expectations; pessimistic attitude
Charisma begins at the Cross of Christ.
“Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above ourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others. In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus: Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage; rather, he made himself nothing by taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness. And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to death—even death on a cross! Therefore God exalted him to the highest place and gave him the name that is above every name, that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth, and every tongue acknowledge that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.”-Philippians 2:3-11