Fight or flight are two responses of how we deal with problems we encounter. Sadly, some choose to flee (flight) when they arise and common escapes are: getting drunk, entertainment, procrastination, doing something else, blaming others or ignoring it.
Fleeing by any means may give temporary relief or distraction but does not solve the issue thereby only delaying it, prolonging the agony and worse, even complicating the issue until it affects others.
Generally, problems start with the ill condition and content of our mind:
- what we think of ourselves (Introspection),
- what we think of others or an event (Perception) and
- what we think others are thinking about us or an event (Assumption)
Remember: Thoughts > Words > Actions > Habits > Character > Destiny
If a negative situation keeps recurring, there must be a problem somewhere. If the common denominator in every situation is YOU, then you may have a problem.
We need to own up to our problems and face them head-on. We need to admit if we have a problem in the way we see our “self” because we are the window in which we see the world. Acceptance is the first step to the healing process.
If we don’t conquer our fears, our fears will conquer us sooner or later. If we can’t even fix ourselves, why attempt to even fix another person? Life is only made better with a better you.
“Everybody talks about wanting to change things, help and fix, but ultimately all you can do is fix yourself. And that’s a lot. Because if you can fix yourself, it has a ripple effect.”-Rob Reiner, Director
“If you can’t fix yourself, God can, if you surrender yourself to Him.”-Adrian Pantonial