7 Simple Ways to Easily Remember People’s Names

A person’s name is the sweetest word one could ever hear. When you call a person by his or her name…

  • You catch their attention.
  • You validate their uniqueness.
  • They feel valued.
  • They feel needed.

These and many others are just some reasons why remembering a person’s name matters a lot not only in school when you’re name is called during attendance checking.

Calling people by their names makes you intentional in building relationships in school, at work, and in other organizations.

Let me share with you a few fun ways I use to remember people’s names easily:

  1. Repeat their name in a conversation on your initial interaction.

This works well for example at a party or a meeting while doing small talks or discussing other topics. When you repeat their names at least twice or three times in the first five to 10 minutes into your conversation, your brain registers the person’s name in your system, making you more inclined to remember it.

  1. Associate how they look like to someone you already know.

It’s really easy to remember the name of a new acquaintance especially if he or she looks like someone close to you or someone personally associated to you before in one way or another. This would often make you reminisce the good or bad times you’ve had with the look-alike person making the new person’s name easily remembered.

  1. Look for tattoos, birth marks, or other obvious physical distinguishing marks.

Don’t forget to say that person’s name aloud so that your brain will record it as you remember his or her unique physical features. Everyone you encounter would always have something physically different that stands out from the rest.

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  1. Listen to how unique their tone of voice is or their manner of speaking.

Does the person have a booming or a really soft voice? Does he or she often speak slowly, fast, or with a stutter? Do they have a favorite word or expression that they always use? How’s their hand gestures while speaking?

  1. Observe their sense of fashion or the lack of it.

What is this person’s favorite clothing style? Is it casual, formal, hippie, gothic, etc.? Does he or she have a favorite color, shoes, or accessories? Do they wear eyeglasses? What’s the color or style of their hair?

  1. Find out their hobbies or favorite topics of conversation.

Everybody loves to talk about themselves whether they’re aware of it or not. When you ask casual but not too personal questions in your initial interaction, you encourage the other person to talk more about what they’re really passionate about. This would make you recall certain details about them making you remember their names faster.

  1. Learn the details of their occupation.

Whether a student, an employee, a businessman, or a bum, everybody’s got something to be busy with.

As the other person talks more about his or her occupation, you’re able to compare yourself or other people you know with this person you’re talking to, and how similar or different you or your existing contacts are with this acquaintance. This process lays out a really good foundation for you to recall their names pretty quickly.

So there you have it, seven really simple ways for you to have fun while meeting new people, making new friends, and building meaningful connections.

Now, it’s time for you to apply these techniques. Get out there and smile as you introduce yourself to others and enjoy the diversity of life!

10 Surefire Ways to Enhance Your English Communication Skills

Undoubtedly, English is a global language.

It is actually already being used as a business tool for European countries, and Asian countries like the Philippines, South Korea, China, and Japan. And that is why there’s a growing number of people who’d like to learn this language for lots of different reasons.

As a TESOL-certified English teacher, here’s my contribution to speakers of other languages who’d like to hone their English communication skills.

  1. Read English materials.

Reading English books, magazines, or online articles every day for at least 30 minutes to an hour will surely enhance your English vocabulary and overall proficiency. You’ll also learn how subject-verb agreement rules are carried out in different ways and you’ll also learn some new English expressions, which you may not hear in your everyday conversation with fellow non-native English speakers.

Doing your own self-study every day will be especially helpful if the English language is the capital premium in your work.

  1. Watch English videos.

Watch English movies with subtitles so you’d know what words the actors are saying on the screen and how they’re pronouncing it, as well as how they convey the feelings that go along with the words. Watch English TV talk shows, TV series, or YouTube how-to videos that relates to your specific area of interest (example: relationships, entertainment, sports, etc.)

More likely than not, you’ll realize that the English language is delivered in a different intonation and rhythm compared to your first language.

  1. Listen to English radio programs and podcasts.

Listen to English radio programs or podcasts that are either entertaining or that would also grow your other skills like public speaking, management, marketing, and the likes. There are so many free podcasts online that you could subscribe to and listen to on a regular basis.

Learning the English language the fun way would definitely motivate you to continue doing what you’re doing.

  1. Imitate native English speakers in the way they speak.

While you’re watching or listening to an English material, try to imitate the way how speakers are saying the words so that you’ll hear yourself, your brain will record the connection between how the words are spelled and how they’re pronounced, and you’ll become more comfortable in using the words as the opportunity arises.

  1. Learn to unlearn.

There are so many wrong lessons we have learned along the way from friends, colleagues, and even well-meaning school teachers.

We need to be open and flexible enough to let go of those wrong lessons and to welcome and apply the updated and better insights that are coming our way as we go about our journey of self-improvement.


  1. Record your voice and listen to yourself.

Record yourself while reading an English news or how-to article, a poem, or your favorite motivational piece. Listen to your own recording and observe how this would even boost your self-esteem.

  1. Write an English journal or blog.

If you’re not comfortable writing a blog that’s open to public and if you enjoy the old style of handwriting on a journal, do so as you please. I recommend you do this first thing in the morning or before you sleep at night so you could process your plans or what transpired during the day while you’re correcting yourself in the way you observe grammar in your writing.

  1. Study as you go about your daily routines.

If you drive your own car, you could listen to audio books while commuting somewhere. If your smartphone has that feature, you may also buy audio books online so you could also listen to it while on a public transport.

It would also be great if your smartphone has an offline dictionary so you could just check out unfamiliar words that you encounter on posters, billboards, even from news, movies, or programs you watch or tune in to.

  1. Think English, Speak English.

The major impediment to taking your English communication skills to the next level is doing a direct translation from our own language to suit an appropriate English expression. This sometimes work right when you’re just translating a word in itself. But it often doesn’t work well if you’re translating expressions or sentences, because the English language has a completely different structure from your own native language.

Also, how many times do you find yourself stuttering or running out of words when you’re talking to a native English speaker whether over the phone or in person? That’s often happening because of nervousness or you simply don’t have the right word or expression handy. So how do we avoid this?

Practice thinking in English because it skips the process of translating in your head from your native language to English words and statements, which actually slows down your brain’s processes making you stutter or run out of words.

  1. Practice makes permanent.

As non-native English speakers, I believe that we can only achieve permanence but not perfection in our English communication skills. We would always commit grammar slips now and then. But the most we can do is to minimize them and perpetually hone our English. And the best way to achieve that is to practice daily, or as often as we can with someone, or with groups.

Learning and developing your English communication skills will absolutely take much of your time, effort, and resources. But the rewards of it would certainly be awesome, not only for you but also for people you deal with or serve throughout your lifetime.

So go ahead, have fun and enjoy enhancing your English skills in every possible way.


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3 Ugly Truths about New Beginnings and How to Deal with Them

As adults we often learn lessons the hard way. And we have learned that the lessons born out of pain stick with us the longest.

New beginnings are not always exciting, especially if you were just forced into it, or it was brought about by your wrong decisions.

A loved one dies. You were fired from a job. A broken relationship. And the list goes on. We all have had our share of heartaches and sufferings in one way or another. And I don’t want to rain on your parade, but the fact is, there’s actually more to come.

Truth sets free so let’s learn these facts about new beginnings, no matter how ugly they may seem:

1.    New beginnings respect no one.

It could happen anywhere, anytime, and to anyone. It knows no boundaries as to how much disaster it could cause. It’s no respecter of status: young or old, rich or poor, single, married, divorce, or widowed, we all get to experience new beginnings whenever and wherever.

Tip: Let go of entitlement. It doesn’t mean that being the son or daughter of whoever makes you excused from the sufferings that come with new beginnings. Let go of the past and move on with what’s at hand. The faster you release resistance, the better you can embrace change for your good and those around you.

2.    New beginnings are challenging.

Learning new skills could be fun; but it’s not as easy as others would want to make you believe. Being in a new situation or an environment causes anxiety, and maybe even depression.

Tip: Embrace the challenges that comes with your new start. Acceptance is the key to healing and reformation. Whining or resisting the change that’s taking place now won’t do you any good.

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3.    New beginnings could be arduous.

As you learn to cope with your new set of circumstances, you realize that it will require all your best efforts, time, and often resources to get through it. Positive changes do not happen overnight. Desired results often take time to be realized.

Tip: Network with people who have expertise knowledge on the field you’re trying to master. You’d always get by with a little help from friends. Why go solo when you can do it better and faster with other people?

No matter how difficult your new beginnings may be now, or however unpredictable the future may be for you, fear not because the Bible says, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” – Philippians 4:13

“Remember not the former things, nor consider the things of old. Behold, I am doing a new thing; now it springs forth, do you not perceive it? I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert.” – Isaiah 43:18-19 ESV

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.” – Proverbs 3:5-6 ESV

New seasons usher in change, and change must begin in you before you could change your situation. New challenges call for new strategies.

Welcome the new season with a new you. But most important of all, trust God in His sovereign guidance and timing.

5 Simple Ingredients of Lifelong Friendships

We humans are social beings. We don’t live for ourselves alone. “No man is an island,” an old adage says.

We are made for interaction and interdependence as we go about our daily routines. And the rise of various social media platforms like Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and others have proven just that.

In our pursuit of the good life, we find some wonderful people outside our homes along the way. They are our friends. People we hang out with and have fun with. They could also be people we go to school with and work with.

But have you ever wondered what makes “lifelong friendships”? Here are just a few lessons I’ve learned in my more than three decades of existence so far (and counting!).

1. Same circles or shared space

Our friendships are often formed at school, workplaces, churches, or other associations. We meet interesting people because we move about in the same shared space. Being in the same place and time make way for shared challenges and happiness, from small talks to deeper, meaningful conversations.

2. Similar or related goals

Our life goals lead us to the above-mentioned places, which lead us to meeting people we socialize with. We often build friendships with people who share the same objectives as we have. Whether our goals are related to education, sports, or career growth, we build friendships with people of the same pursuits.

3. Shared values and principles

The people who become part of our inner circle, those closest to us, have become so attached to us because their beliefs and convictions intertwine with ours. Often, these close friends could effectively correct and guide us towards the achievement of our dreams.


4. Tested by conflicts, time and space

All types of relationships go through times of testing its lifespan by way of arguments. And as social beings, there would be times when we or our friends have move away somewhere else. The best kinds of friendships take extra effort to meet and reunite against all odds.

5. Mutual benefit

Real friends are on call through good times and bad times. Real friends help each other. In fact, you’ll often know who your true friends are in the lowest, darkest moments of your life. You will never forget those people who were with you and showed you care and support when you needed it.

It’s worth investing your time, effort, and sometimes, even sharing your resources to authentic and lifelong friends. After all, as one old song says, “That’s what friends are for.”

If this piece makes you think of your good friends, why don’t you share it with them to make them feel that they will be remembered and cherished…for life.


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7 Instigating Questions To Ask Yourself Before Buying Books

People buy books for two main reasons: to be inspired and/or to be informed.

Books could be used as tools toward achieving a certain feeling or attaining our goals. But there comes a point when you feel like you already have too many books, and you just don’t have enough time to read all of them.

If you’ve already reached that point, that’s an awful start but a good one anyway to analyze why you should stop buying books.

Here are other reasons and questions to either convince you or make you think twice before making your next purchase:

  1. Do I really need this book or do I just want it? Will I still need it after a month?
  2. Can I afford this book? Or should my money be used for other priorities?
  3. Am I just buying a book because it has a good cover, a catchy title, and it’s on sale
  4. How many unfinished books do I have at home? What should I do to finish them? Or should I just give them away to people who could benefit from them?
  5. Am I collecting books just for the fun of it? Or am I using them as trophies to display and to make other people think I’m clever?
  6. What benefit did I get from my recent book purchase anyway?
  7. Has this now become an addiction that is hurting my finances in a bad way?


Books could be awesome gifts to others (and to ourselves, too). But too much of a good thing could be just as bad, especially if it’s no longer beneficial.

One thing’s for sure, answering these question might just give you intriguing answers and shocking revelations about your purchasing habits.

How about you? Have you figured out a way out of this maze?

Come on and help our tribe by writing your answer in the comments section of this article.

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7 Practical Reasons Why I Returned to College After 17 Years

As of this writing, I’ve already had three attempts in separate occasions to complete a college degree.

At 37 years old, I’m now on my fourth one, and hopefully, this would be my last. So help me God.

I have finished a two-year course in 1998 with an Associate Degree in Computer Science. I took this course, which I was not really passionate about, because of three reasons:

a.) I was impressed by that college’s spokesperson who visited our high school campus for our career orientation seminar. I also thought that a classmate and high school friend would actually enroll in that same school. But he didn’t and he took a completely different course and enrolled in another school. #ColumbiaZoned (reference: Miss Universe 2015 announcement)

b.) Computer Science was in demand at the time (and even until now) and I bought in to their “marketing deception” that I can already work overseas even with just a two-year course in this field. Later on, I found out that it could only be a dream come true for the lucky few. #FalseAdvertisements (Side note: I have always wanted to take up Mass Communications when I was high school.)

c.) My late father and my aunt had an agreement that I, being the firstborn, would finish this two year course as quick as I can so I can help my four other siblings finish their college degrees. #TheStoryOfMyLife

All my three attempts to get a degree in the past more than two decades have failed because I had to stop studying and work to help provide for my family’s hand-to-mouth existence, or for an ailing family member.


Now, here I am again, pursuing a degree in Business Administration, Major in Marketing Management…

  • After 17 long years have passed since I finished my first course
  • After traveling in about 10 countries while working in a cruise ship
  • After all of my four siblings now have their own families
  • After both of my parents have passed on

Here I am, providing for my own college education through a full time work at night, while studying in the morning and doing events hosting mostly on weekends.

You might ask: why would I still go to college when I already have a full time job?

Here are some practical reasons why I am doing what I am doing now. (I am also writing this to inspire myself when I’m tempted to give up.)

7 Practical Reasons Why I Returned to College

1. Create more options

In the Philippines, if you don’t have a college degree you have limited options for decent employment. (But of course if you have capital, you can always start your own business.) Later on in life, when I’m about to retire (lord-willing), I also hope to teach at a university when I get (much) older.

2. Competitive edge

I have worked for some reputable companies and my experience tells me that employers often prefer to promote a person with a good college (or Master’s) degree education.

3. Career flexibility

When you don’t have a college degree, there would be times when you feel like you’re stuck in your job for fear that other employers might not hire you. Most job ads clearly state the need for this qualification.

4. Confidence and Competence

Not having a college degree may even cause insecurity for some. And when you have low self-esteem, it might even affect your competence at work, even your relationships.

5. Commitment and Concentration

Having to juggle work and studies at the same time, is of course stressful; but it strengthens my commitment and concentration to be laser-focused in achieving my life goals.

6. Challenges

I don’t see my current life’s station as problematic. But I rather see every hurdle as a challenge I need to overcome to get to my desired destination options: a Master’s degree abroad or another work overseas.

7. Closer to my life’s calling

Two of my life goals include becoming a book author and a motivational speaker. In order to succeed in both arenas, I believe it requires some form of having quality education and field expertise.

These reasons may be contestable to some or irrational to others. But you have not walked in my shoes to experience the difficulties that I had to surpass in order to get to where I am today, while still being a work in progress.

What I have chosen is indeed a difficult path, it’s a road less traveled in a sense. But I’m not only doing this for my sake, but for the welfare of my own future family.

I don’t want my future children to go through the same sufferings as I have had, so I’m doing my part right now, no matter how difficult it is and no matter what the cost.

In my pursuit for lifelong learning and personal growth, I’m doing my fair share to be able to live a good legacy.

So help me God.


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I’m happy beyond logic and the realms of emotion

As happy as when the sun shines intermingled with rain showers and thunderstorms

As happy as the ocean when the sun sets on the horizon

As happy as a bird in flight, searching for home

As happy as a traveler lost in wanderlust moment

As happy as a street vagabond carefree of his own desperation

As happy as a child in awestruck wonder of life’s beauty unfolding each day

As happy as a pregnant woman anxious yet ecstatic and expectant of her firstborn

I’m happy despite my life’s challenges and complexities in the here and now


7 Perks of An Events Host

Throughout my 16 years of events hosting (and counting), I have learned a lot of invaluable lessons along the way. And I want to share them with you all, especially for followers of this blog who are in the same business, or who are contemplating to do events hosting as a sideline job, as I do.

Yes, ladies and gentlemen, I have managed to do both: having full time work all these years while events hosting on the side, and even occasionally taking on some freelance writing jobs as well.

So to encourage my fellow events host and those who would like to venture in the entertainment industry through events hosting, here are a few insights and inspiration to spur you on in your pursuit of the good life.

But before you jump over the list below, be reminded that you’re first priority as a hired events host is to provide the best possible kind of service to your clients for their entertainment and celebration needs.

Remember, with great opportunity comes great responsibility as well.

With that in mind, you’re now ready to enjoy the perks of your job as an events host, and here they are:

  1. You get to go to different and awesome event places.

Whether the wedding (or another event) you’re hosting is in a beautiful garden, a grand hotel ballroom, or beach resort, hosting events could take you places.

   2. You get to meet beautiful and interesting people.

As you get to go to places you’ve never been to before, you also get to meet a lot of beautiful and interesting people all of whom you’d never get a chance of rubbing shoulders with in your daily life.

    3. You get to enjoy variety of delicious (or exotic) food and/or great freebies.

Since you’re an events host, depending on the wedding or event coordinator, you are entitled to some awesome freebies and enjoy hearty and sumptuous meals.

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      4. You’re able to grow your professional network.

While knowing your rightful boundaries, don’t be afraid to interact to your clients’ guests as you introduce yourself as the host for the event. Doing small talk is an art that could open up other great opportunities.

     5. You become more flexible as your relational and hosting skills get stretched.

As you welcome different event projects for different people and places, you also get to deal with hard-to-please and difficult clients or audience that will stretch you beyond your comfort zone. Grow with it.

      6. You collect more ideas for future special events, yours or for your clients.

As you serve in various places and grow through challenging hosting opportunities, take photos or take note of ideas that could help you and your future clients improve their own event.

      7. You’re able to serve people while having so much fun yourself.

The best kind of work are those where you’re not only working for the money, but where you could find meaning in the work that you do for others, while at the same time, having the time of your life.

So go ahead, have fun and keep on improving your skills as an events host. But don’t forget that at the end of the day, your clients’ and audience’ happiness and fulfillment is your ultimate goal.

Remember, your customers are the bloodline of your business. And if you want repeat businesses as I do, let’s keep the main thing as the main thing: quality service is key to growing customer relationships.

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An Unspoken Anger

There’s a kind of hatred that runs underneath the surface of our daily routines
My hatred of you while we’re trying to stay together and make everything work for both of us
A kind of hatred that is, for now, tolerable in some ways it could still be controlled or just plainly ignored because it doesn’t lead to any immediate resolution or conclusion just yet.

There’s this unspoken anger that beckons to be uttered and discussed in due time,
But chose to still remain in the shadows until the right time comes for its revelation
Because it’s too complex for words, too vague for words to even encapsulate them in comprehensible figures of speech

There’s this need for expression, but there’s this fear that wins over it in so many ways beyond logic and emotion
This fear that engulfs the orderly reality of now against the raging turmoil of potential chaos, should this or that be said and done

So this hatred and anger just cloak themselves in hiding, letting loneliness and pain take their toll because it’s more proper and understandable that way
Until such time that everything goes beyond the realms of control and tolerance will they unleash themselves no matter what the cost, against all odds, and at any given time or day

Hatred and anger are a volcano just waiting to erupt

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3 Patriotic Lessons on the Upcoming Elections

Just a few more days left before the national election. Substantial amount of money has been already spent in campaigning government officials. Political and moral exposes were already dragged to public attention. Mud-slinging here and there. And social media is now inundated with a plethora of patriotism and riot over which presidential candidate is worth your vote.


Most Filipinos have never shown their sense of nationalism more than in this season. This election craze has divided the majority of our population into many separate camps rooting for our individual political candidate, while some do their best to remain apolitical.

Here are a few takeaways that can be had from this noise barrage of intrigues and issues leading to yet another controversial but hopefully nation-building election.

1.     Respect

The Philippines is home to 7,101 islands with so many dialects spoken and traditions observed. There will always be room for disunity due to differing opinions over several concerns that plague our nation.

People express their strong sentiments on their own social media accounts. And you can do your thing on yours, too. But just a reminder, when using social media, it’s always best to “think before you post.”


For the ordinary and general public including myself, let’s try not to get to a point that we will already personally and verbally (or in writing) attack a person because of what he/she posts on Facebook or Twitter in relation to their political bet. We could all use some ounce of benefit of the doubt.

A person’s vote is neither the totality of one’s convictions nor dignity. Let’s not stereotype others mainly because of who they’re rooting for or would vote for.

2.     Agree to Disagree

Even while within one’s family, there could be differing values and convictions, same goes with our friends and acquaintances. It’s not worth cutting off relational ties with a family member or a good friend just because they’re inclined to vote for another political candidate.

Different people will always have different ways of doing and saying things. Let’s make it a point to stand firm on our convictions even as we allow others to do the same.

Let’s not lose our temper and dignity over politicians who may not even know our existence, let alone our quarrels over them.

3.     Show your patriotism not only during the elections.

It’s already a given that the next elected president would make a huge impact to our nation, along with other chosen government officials. But showing patriotism is more than just voting.

Patriotism is a lifestyle.

We all loathe politicians who are corrupt. But are we living a life of integrity? Are we honest in all our dealings?

We love politicians who show care to the poor and needy. Are we doing our share of charity and good deeds to our own neighbors?

Our country is what we made it to be. And who we are and what we do are a reflection of our country.

If we truly love our nation, let’s prayerfully and wisely cast our vote. But let’s do more than just participate in this coming elections. Let’s do our share to be an authentic patriot inside out, every single day.


Let’s be truly global Filipinos daily: in thoughts, in speech, and in deeds.

How Could I Love You Best?

I could love you best by not judging you

by mere appearance, whether by your beauty

or the lack of it, depending on where,

when, or what situation I see you in.


I could love you best by not only appreciating

who you are now and who you could still

potentially become;

but also knowing you more through your past,

no matter how dark or terrible it was.


I could love you best by not only showing you

physical affections; but also by trying to fill

your inner void, valuing your need for

further growth and significance.


I could love you best by not expecting too much or setting unrealistic standards,

by giving you enough leeway to make mistakes, and enough space

for yourself when you need it.


I could love you best by letting you take charge

at times where your strength is needed most;

while I just support you by all means and all the way,

when that’s the only best thing I can do.


I could probably love you best by loving you…

most likely, the way I love myself.

How Could I Love You Best - Adrian Pantonial

Loving and Living With Ambiguity

Here’s to a well-lived life…against all odds.

When you go through difficult seasons, you tend to become overly sensitive, your sense of reason gets clouded by your emotions.

When you feel like you’ve failed in your hot pursuit of your beloved…or your goals…your self-pity grows and blurs your perspective of things.


And when you’re already so entrenched with doubts and sorrows, you feel most alone as you begin to drift in life. You just go through the motions of your daily routines, aimlessly treading a path that leads to nowhere.

At this point, the loneliness and suffering is already getting the best of you, bringing out the beast in you.

The demons in your head gain more control over you as you decide not to ask for help from others. These evil voices would taunt you: “No one cares. No one understands.”

You seek for significance but it’s just so elusive. You crave for belonging and find no one near you. You long for love and there is none. Because you were looking for them in all the wrong things and places and people.

You’re bound to lose all hope as you’re about to give up on everything and everyone that matters.

You’re on your way to wasting your potentials as you contemplate to no longer want to give it another try.

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And then you reach a pivotal turning point when you begin to question yourself: “Should I move on or should I give up?” There’s no in-between here in this fork in the road.

When you commit to take the higher road from this point onward, this could propel you to yet another season of growth, after that season of depression, helplessness, and dying to self.

So don’t stop listening to those precious whispers of truth inside of you that still wants to be heard and acted upon:
You matter.
You’re special.
You are loved.
You are destined for greatness.

Nothing is constant in this life but change…and ambiguity. How do you deal with both when your hopes and ideals keep crashing against the ravaging harsh realities?

Stay hopeful. Stay expectant.

Stay faithful to whatever little things you have before you here and now because great surprises are still coming your way. See them in your mind’s eye and cherish them in your heart.

Then your steadfast hope will soon keep you afloat, make you strong, until you live and thrive again on the verge of a life that’s full.

Dear friend, the best is yet to come for you. Do not give up too soon.

Love in the Time of Millenials

This article was written for and first published on “Organized Lunacy.”

Millennials are the last generation raised in the 20th century. They are the digital natives born between 1980 – 2000. As of this writing, millenials make-up one-third of the Philippine population in the age of 15 to 35 years old.

The Best and The Worst Of Times

With the advent of new and ever-changing technology, this new generation grew up in a fast-paced world, teaching them to be flexible and adapt to their environment.

Even though millenials are steadily seeing new discoveries unfold and are enjoying the boom times contributed by earlier generations, they have also witnessed these worst tragedies of their times:

  1. The 9/11 bombing where Islamic extremist group Al-Qaeda hijacked four airliners and carried out suicide attacks at America’s World Trade Center.
  2. The Super Typhoon Haiyan which ravaged and left the Philippines with a death toll of 6,000 people

  3. The ongoing ISIS innocent killings

No wonder, the hearts of millenials are torn in the midst of both extremes, the best and the worst. But they survive, and are thriving even, in a world where the fittest surive.

Brand New Technology But Same Old Psychology

The age-old need for love continues to haunt our digital natives through time and space. Social media networks like Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram pave the way in meeting the people’s need for connection and belonging.

They are introduced to “impression management” instinctively. This begins by curating your best photos on social media, advertising only your good points as your best digital version.

The internet has undoubtedly made socializing, and even sex, more accessible than ever before. It has bridged the great divide of geographical boundaries, collapsed time and space, and made the world smaller.


Love & Sex in the New Millenium

Casual sex has become a practice intermingled with socializing and experimentation. It’s both ironic and sad that doing it can now mean anything at all or nothing at all.

The way love and sex are practiced and pursued have meaningfully changed over time due to the technology and trends that enabled it.

That is probably why the number of reported HIV cases in the Philippines has increased by more than 277 percent over the last five years between 2010 and 2015. And more than 80 percent of these involved men who have sex with men.

Marriages Crumbling While Some Still Standing

The Catholic bishops’ news agency reported that the number of marriage annulment cases in the Philippines increased by 40 percent in the last decade with at least 22 cases filed every day.

CBCP News said the number of annulment cases had risen from 4,520 in 2001 to 8,282 in 2010.

Consequently, children of these annuled marriages are left wounded and searching for love elsewhere outside their homes.

Needless to say some millenials settle for second best by “living in” with their partners, finding their way to a life they chose, in their own terms. Even while this is a fact, many still see marriage as a form of “salvation.”

The Fact of the Matter and the Relentless Truth

Millenials may be different and special only because of the times and the techonologies that welcomed them. But they are just like all other generations. They could get lost in their way, and they need guidance.

One thing is for sure, from generation to generation, despite the hype or happiness, the mess and the misery of these millenial years:

There will always be a hole in our hearts that only God can fill.

It’s in Christ that we find out who we are and what we are living for. Long before we first heard of Christ and got our hopes up, he had his eye on us, had designs on us for glorious living, part of the overall purpose he is working out in everything and everyone. “ – Ephesians 1:11-12 MSG

3 Problems and Powers of Community

“If I want to create genuine community, I have to be willing to transcend surface-level conversations, even though it might hurt.” – Wade Bearden

Born in a country where family is considered the basic unit of society and where community plays a vital role in every individual’s life, I have personally experienced the problems and powers of being a part of a community.

Whether I’m in my neighborhood, church, school, and at work, there would always be communities and semblances of it. The old adage still rings true: no man is an island, especially in our country where family and community are highly valued.


Last August 29, 2015, the nation once again witnessed the power of community as the second day of Iglesia Ni Cristo (INC) protest causes heavy traffic on EDSA, one of the main highways in Ortigas Center. The EDSA Shrine was the site of two peaceful demonstrations that toppled Philippine presidents Ferdinand Marcos (in 1986) and Joseph Estrada (in 1982).

The INC crisis made news when Cristina “Ka Tenny” Manalo, widow of the late INC leader Eraño “Erdy” Manalo, and her son, Felix Nathaniel “Angel” Manalo, posted a 54-second video on YouTube asking help, claiming their lives were under threat.

These recent headline news in some ways made me reflect on how the community influences and impacts us all, for better or for worse, depending on how we view it and how we use it in our lives.

3 Problems of the Community

People within and outside the community could:

  1. Talk about you – Whether you’re doing good or bad, people will always talk about you. You just can’t escape the gossips and rumors brewing in your community. Your response could either be fight or flight and either way may work to your advantage or to your detriment.
  2. Meddle with your personal affairs – Because Filipinos are such family- and community-oriented people, others tend to meddle even with your personal affairs. For some reason, even acquaintances and strangers would say something (or do something) on social media (or in real life) about issues they should not dabble on in the first place.
  3. Bring you down – Even without having high expectations on certain communities, they could bring you down emotionally and figuratively speaking. When people have already agreed on a certain notion or fact, they could conspire to bring you down, so beware and be always on alert.

3 Powers of the Community

People within and outside the community could:

  1. Take care of you – I am blessed with a church community that genuinely cares about its community members. Most of my close Victory friends have visited me when I and my mother were hospitalized on separate occasions.
  2. Hold you accountable for your actions – Because the ripple effect of your actions could potentially not only hurt or benefit yourself but your community as a whole, they also often serve as vanguards of what’s right and wrong, whether you like it or not.
  3. Bring you up – One is too small a number to achieve greatness and leave a lasting impact. And when many people actually like your product, service, or they just love you for your personality and what you bring to the table, the community could voluntarily help you succeed in your endeavors.

3 Simple (But Not Easy) Solutions

Robert Frost once said that “the best way out is always through.” Here are a few simple but not always easy solutions, to the challenges in our community:

  1. Respect the differences – Our individual differences is what makes life more interesting, and at the same time, challenging. When we behave like we’re better than others in a condescending way, or when we act like we’re above the law, situations get convoluted. Respecting other people’s differences (and rights) enables us to take the higher road, though it’s not always easy.
  2. Agree to disagree – Once the differences have already been drawn and the boundary lines were set, let’s do our best to compromise and agree to disagree in order to serve each other’s objectives. Once we see that it’s not always about “me” or “you” but “we,” we could be openly vulnerable and accept that we could live harmoniously in a community despite our differences.
  3. Unity in diversity – When we respect the differences and agree to disagree, we make more room to give the benefit of the doubt to others failures, giving more chance to being united in diversity for the greater benefit of everyone.

Our communities would always be there for us if we would not only live for ourselves. It’s a give and take relationship. Our being part of the whole, no matter how small, flawed, or helpless we feel and see ourselves at times, does not mean we’re not important.

Every single one of us is significant and of value, not only in and for ourselves but also for our communities.

Our words and deeds ultimately affect other lives, whether we’re aware of it or not.

3 Ridiculously Simple Ways to Become an Effective Events Host

For 15 years of hosting events, I have hosted different types of gatherings for people from different walks of life, and I have learned a lot of things along the way.

I have worked with beautiful people and people with interesting personalities.

Pen ChamrongI’m tempted to say I have seen it all, but that would be an exaggeration. I believe there’s still a lot of things to see, hear, and experience in this ever-evolving and exciting world of events.

As a public speaker and a writer too, here are three lessons I’d like to share with you hoping it will help you grow to become an effective Events Host:

1. Prepare well – These are only two words but loaded heavily with meaning. Preparation makes the challenge half accomplished. Although there would still be unpleasant surprises that would happen, your prep time would save you from even more troubles that could possibly happen without it.

This includes meeting with your clients at least once before your event. Know their preferences for the program. Know what they don’t like too (ex. green jokes etc.). Know the kind of manpower and resources that they have and don’t have.

Ensure that you have their correct cellphone number and email address. Being connected with them in Facebook may also help.

Once you have already prepared their event program, ask them for feedback and consent, and revise it up to twice to ensure you’ve covered everything they need for their program. Make sure that you email them your final program copy.

Before the program starts, study your printed program and familiarize yourself with the flow of sequences.

2. Learn from your mistakes – Even if you’re well-prepared, some things would still go wrong. Don’t beat yourself too much, especially if you’ve already done your best effort. Some things are just beyond your control.

Review the event flow and know what went wrong. Ask yourself what you or other people could’ve done better to avoid the same thing to happen in your future events.

After the event, ask for your clients’ feedback and accept constructive criticism.

3. Keep developing your communication and relational skills – These skills are the lifeblood of your being an events host so it would benefit you if you put yourself to lifelong learning in honing your talent capital.

Here are a few things I do to keep growing in my craft:

  • Listen to podcasts (or radio programs) of your favorite book authors or public speakers.
  • Watch TV variety or game shows and observe how the hosts communicate to their live audience and their TV viewers.
  • Read books on communication, public speaking, and personal growth.
  • Attend events, seminars, and workshops that would enable you to interact with people of the same passion, while always being on the lookout for tips and tricks you’d learn from other events hosts.

Got your own ideas? Share it with us on the comments section.

Related article: 8 Useful Tips for Events Hosts

An Artist’s Legacy

“The aim of every artist is to arrest motion, which is life, by artificial means and hold it fixed so that a hundred years later, when a stranger looks at it, it moves again since it is life. Since man is mortal, the only immortality possible for him is to leave something behind him that is immortal since it will always move. This is the artist’s way of scribbling ‘Kilroy was here’ on the wall of the final and irrevocable oblivion  through which he must someday pass.”

– William Faulkner

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An Act of Contrition: Rising from Rejections

Through the years, I have experienced so betrayals, and rejections in life.
Those were really painful experiences, but at the same time, they were extremely insightful for me.
Had I not gone through those heart-wrenching moments, I would not have been a better man that I am today.

For the longest time, I went to great lengths and exerted my best efforts not only to progress in life, but also to prove people wrong especially.

I wanted those who mistreated and maligned me to regret what they did to me.
I wanted them to hate what they did to me as much as I hated them for quite some time.
I wanted them to hurt as much as I was hurt by their insensitive words and actions.

Needless to say, and so much to my dismay, I am actually hurting myself in the process, too. And I’m also hurting others unintentionally along the way.

By dwelling in the past, I was unable to move on well.
By lingering on my past pains, I was only rehearsing them to hurt me over and over again.
So now, I have learned my lessons well…even if I had to learn them the hard way.

Now, I no longer want to live that way.
Now, I only want to live my right kind of life as quietly as possible, and without trying to please everybody.
Now, I strive to slowly but surely move on with laser-focus towards a better and brighter future.

And if my living this way will prove people wrong eventually, then so be it. But that no longer consumes me, because ultimately, God will vindicate me.

Finally, I have learned that not until I have made peace with my past, could I only truly rise from rejections and turn my life around towards the right direction.

This is my act of contrition.

The Three Structures of Personality: Your Now, Your Choice

Sigmund Freud theorized that there are three structures of our personality. These are the Id, Ego, and Superego. I tend to agree with him because I myself experience these seemingly internal conflicts.

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  1. Id is the pleasure-seeking part of our personality. This is the selfish, evil part of us that thinks only of our own good and happiness.
  2. Ego is the “self” that delays satisfaction and channels libido into seriously acceptable outlets. This is that part of us that converts our “hidden desires” into workable, worthwhile, and more socially acceptable activities to find fulfillment in what we do.
  3. Superego is the moral part of that inhibits impulses of the Id, restrains the activity of Ego, and decides what’s right or wrong to conform to society’s moral standards. It is, in my belief, our “conscience” or “the voice of God within us” prompting us to do good and pursue what’s admirable, right and fair, not only for ourselves but for others, too.

These three personality structures are at war within all of us. And depending on our values and goals in life, we may choose only one or two of these. Or better yet, we could exert all our efforts to manage the conflicts within, with the help of God and other people.

The battle between good and evil rages within us every single day. And it is our daily, moment by moment choices that would determine the direction and outcome of our lives.

Your now is the product of your past choices.
Your now is the process of your future.
This is your now. What will you do with it?

“The end of the matter; all has been heard. Fear God and keep his commandments, for this is the whole duty of man. For God will bring every deed into judgment, with every secret thing, whether good or evil.”
– Ecclesiastes 12:13-14